Apparently it is super trendy for (some...before the "not all" chorus lifts every voice and sings) Black men to "drag" black women on social media. My question: why though?? What is going on? Okay, Black men who have "issues" with Black women are nothing new. As a Black woman who is "darker than a brown paper bag," I am quite familiar with all the old tropes: "Black women are too ghetto...don't wear their own hair...don't respect Black men...have too much drama...are loud...destroyed the Black family..." etc., ad infinitum. But here lately, it seems, Black men are well and truly taking issue with us in every imaginable way. Tyrese, French Montana, Trick Daddy, and the like all seem to have, what I am sure they deem, serious grievances with Black woman, and I just don't get it. And let's not talk about the "Hotep" brothers who are quick to, in the same breath call the Black woman God and tell us we need to stop believing in the lie that is (white) Feminism and "honor" the Black man, who is apparently God above all Gods.
In a nation (and world) where being a Black woman means you are subjected to degradation at every turn, it is devastating for the most personal and damaging attacks to come from men who should be our protectors. I have not ever heard men of another race discourage, disparage, or degrade their women the way Black men do. I could recount the hundreds, thousands, or millions of situations in which Black woman have had your back...the ways in which Black women have fought, bled, and died for you...the centuries of care-giving, love, and protection given to you...the sacrifices made for you...but you all know that. You know that, yet you are pleased with yourself when you call us out of our name, attempt to resign us to second-class status (though you fight against your own oppression), call us "ugly" for having, naturally, the same features you covet on other races of women, and stand before the world and denounce us as cruelly as any slave master ever could.
There is tension between Black women and Black men, and we are not to blame. You are. Those of you who are so determined to cast us aside, are the same men who demand we march and plead for your lives when they are in danger. You are the same men who demand we support you through the "struggle," then "get on...and leave...for a white girl." It is to us "nappy-headed" women you run when the world puts you in your place. For every triumph you achieve, there is a Black woman who aided you during the tragedy.
Being a Black woman, I am utterly disgusted by you. There are literally groups of Black men who hate Black women or those who write articles like this:
Not only is this article disgusting, it is full of the following fuckery.
I am not one to discount another's experiences, but we don't smile, playing with children, or hold hands? GTFOH. What in the whole world? I don't know which Black women he has been around, but that sounds like a completely ignorant generalization. Why though?? He goes on:
There is a certain segment of Black men who want to and will blame Black women for every failure and upset in their lives. That is unfair and wholly unrealistic. I am sure there are some "cold-hearted" Black women in the world, but there are also "cold-hearted" white, Asian, Hispanic, Native, and other race/ethnicity of women out there too. The difference? Those women get a pass. In fact, their "crazy" is often seen as attractive (which is ignorant on its face); whereas, those same personality traits in a single Black woman tarnishes us all.
I don't know what the "fix" is for the Black man who holds such animus towards Black women, but I do know, it is your problem not ours. I think, on the whole, Black woman have proven our resilience, but it is terribly sad when we must protect ourselves from our own men.
In a nation (and world) where being a Black woman means you are subjected to degradation at every turn, it is devastating for the most personal and damaging attacks to come from men who should be our protectors. I have not ever heard men of another race discourage, disparage, or degrade their women the way Black men do. I could recount the hundreds, thousands, or millions of situations in which Black woman have had your back...the ways in which Black women have fought, bled, and died for you...the centuries of care-giving, love, and protection given to you...the sacrifices made for you...but you all know that. You know that, yet you are pleased with yourself when you call us out of our name, attempt to resign us to second-class status (though you fight against your own oppression), call us "ugly" for having, naturally, the same features you covet on other races of women, and stand before the world and denounce us as cruelly as any slave master ever could.
Being a Black woman, I am utterly disgusted by you. There are literally groups of Black men who hate Black women or those who write articles like this:
The Emotionless, Cold Hearted, Self Hating Black Woman
Black women in their acceptance of feminism, fatherless home welfare policies and their desire to be accepted by white men and white society have morphed into completely different creatures, an unrecognisable group of women as far as I am concerned. This is something that I talked about in my book Negro Wars. The modern-day black female in dealing with black men and black society has become emotionless and cold-hearted. Let us go through some quick examples.
Not only is this article disgusting, it is full of the following fuckery.
Allow me ask you some quick questions, when was the last time you saw a black woman smiling walking down the street hand in hand with a black man? When was the last time you saw a black woman walking down the street holding the hand of her black child/children, smiling, laughing and interacting with him/her/them? When was the last time you saw a black woman playing with her black children in the park?
I am not one to discount another's experiences, but we don't smile, playing with children, or hold hands? GTFOH. What in the whole world? I don't know which Black women he has been around, but that sounds like a completely ignorant generalization. Why though?? He goes on:
Well, as I have stated before those who still choose to deal with black women do so at their own risk and can no longer complain if bitten having already been pre-warned. Thinking black men, stay away from the cold heartless creature known as the black female, she is not your friend. Black men, you can do much better for yourselves and you certainly deserve better.
There is a certain segment of Black men who want to and will blame Black women for every failure and upset in their lives. That is unfair and wholly unrealistic. I am sure there are some "cold-hearted" Black women in the world, but there are also "cold-hearted" white, Asian, Hispanic, Native, and other race/ethnicity of women out there too. The difference? Those women get a pass. In fact, their "crazy" is often seen as attractive (which is ignorant on its face); whereas, those same personality traits in a single Black woman tarnishes us all.
I don't know what the "fix" is for the Black man who holds such animus towards Black women, but I do know, it is your problem not ours. I think, on the whole, Black woman have proven our resilience, but it is terribly sad when we must protect ourselves from our own men.
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